I have been here many times, quite recently in fact.
It’s hard to see friends receive encouragement and support while you’re being ignored, passed over or missed.
While some people are just arseholes (sorry, but they are) and roll their eyes and complain about “another unhappy post”, others want to say something but don’t know how or even if what they want to say is right.
Sometimes it doesn’t even come down to the other people, it might just be your childhood friend posted things at a time when people were around and looking.
Whatever the reason for their lack of interest, it doesn’t make you a bad person for feeling jealous. It doesn’t make you a bad person for unfollowing your friend.
As for explaining it to her, has she asked you why you unfollowed her?
If she hasn’t then there’s probably not much point bringing it up.
If she has, just tell her that it’s upsetting to see people respond to her posts and pictures but ignore yours, thus ignoring you. If she has a problem with that then it’s something she needs to deal with. You’ve been honest and, really, she can’t ask for more than that.
A lot of this stuff comes down to how we see ourselves and our identity as well as self esteem, confidence and all that wonderful stuff. Working on deciphering who we are as opposed to what we portray or think we “should” be will make a huge difference in stuff like this.
Getting to a point where we know who we are is something that takes time — omfg it takes so much time.
Little things you can do to help you find out who you are:
— Write a little list of the things you like: cats, ice cream, winter, pink, orchids, etc.
— Try new things. If you like it, do it again.
— Be nice to yourself. Treat yourself to some of your favourite things. Part of gaining confidence is actually liking yourself, so doing a few things here and there for you goes a long way.
— Make new friends.
— Read a new book and fall in love with the characters.
Basically, do things that makes you feel good. Do things that you’re good at. These will all help you to improve the way you feel about yourself which will help you either not care about the discrepancy between what interaction you get compared to your friend or help you find new friends that are far more encouraging and supportive of you. Quite possibly both.